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Q: I was raised Jewish but am not religious and didn’t have a Bat Mitzvah. My husband is an atheist. Now, much to our surprise, our daughter, who’s 12, wants a Bat Mitzvah! It’s not about the party, though she’s been to several. I think she’s looking for a way to identify with her something larger than herself, maybe even something spiritual. How should we proceed?

A: Since your daughter is 12, it's most likely too late to enroll her in a standard Hebrew school Bat Mitzvah program. Your best bet is to contact a rabbi who can help you design an individualized program.